The reason I titled this post with a question is because I do not “do it all”, at least not all the time. It’s actually quite flattering when people say “I don’t know how you do it” or “How do you do it all?” I suppose doing it all is in the eye of the beholder. Just because I have twins, some people assume I am “super mom”. I usually just smile and take the compliment. Honestly, though, I am just as human as the next mom. No super powers here. I can relate to you more than you know!
Disclaimer: I have help
First of all, I am not a stay at home mom all week long. My mom graciously watches the girls two days a week so that I can work. I am a licensed loan originator (I can help you buy a home). I also do accounting duties for a Construction company and my Synagogue. These girls give me a run for my money and some days I honestly don’t even know how my mom does it. She is incredible and never complains. Super Mimi for sure. The other five days I am with the girls and am “full-time” homemaker/mommy while also doing “loan stuff” or “accounting stuff” as needed on my laptop while they are awake or my desktop while they nap.
Some days I do it all
I can take credit that some days I do it all. At least, I do everything I set out to do. I keep the kids alive and complete my to do list. I do the laundry and the dishes. I make the girls every meal and even remember to “feed and water” myself. I wipe down the highchairs after every use and get all of the crumbs (so many crumbs) swept up before the next use. I get their room prepped and bottles made before nap times and smoothly transition them to their cribs. I have plenty of play, learning and quality time with the girls. No baby falls and bumps their head or climbs on top of the others face, smashing it into the carpet, on my watch. I feed the cats, check their water and scoop their poop. I even get to read my devotional and get a SHOWER. Hallelujah…sometimes I DO do it all.
Some days I do it all and then some
Some days I temporarily borrow some supermom powers. The girls go down for their nap like little baby champs and I put on some “clean with me” motivation on YouTube. I LOVE Kendra Atkins and NaturallyBrittany. I don’t JUST love them for their cleaning motivation, I love everything they post. They really do give me some serious cleaning motivation though. I will bust out any reminder dishes by hand while a dishwasher load is going. I wash, dry, fold, hang and PUT AWAY the laundry! What? Yes! Sometimes this happens. Except for the baby socks, does the washer and dryer eat one of ever pair? I sweep and mop the common areas and clean up the playroom. I might prep dinner early so it will be extra fast when Jason gets home. Sometimes I even make a little dessert ahead of time! I might even work on a blog post or read my bible or a book I am loving. On a really super-mommy day I eve go running with the girls double jogging stroller. Its actually kind of funny that these days are the ones that are usually followed by the days that I DON’T do it all.
That’s right…Some days I don’t “do it all” at all
Yep, some days I am literally on survival mode. There are times that I can’t get up to make my husband his breakfast and his smoothie. This means that the baby’s breakfast doesn’t get prepped either putting me behind for “baby breakfast”. I might feel TOO LAZY to unload and reload the dishwasher. Or maybe I will load it and forget to hit start. Or…this is a good one…load it and start it but forget the detergent tablet. Good times. Sometimes one or BOTH girls are teething so bad that I can’t even put them down to pee. I have taken them both the bathroom with me. Nope, my bathroom isn’t baby proof. Yep, I held them both will going. I can’t even tell you HOW I got my pants down and back up, I don’t even know. Sometimes they skip their naps. Maybe it’s from teething, or sleeping in or even because I got groceries and they are over stimulated and still excited form getting to talk to ALL of the people in Publix. ALL OF THE PEOPLE.
No naps? No productivity.
No naps? Cranky babies!
No naps? Stressed out Mommy
Sometimes I even get chronic migraines where my vision is blurry and am nauseous and still have to mom. I have literally laid on the floor in their playroom until my Maxaalt kicked in. Then I just feel WEIRD and itchy and tingly, but at least I can function enough to take care of my princesses and honestly that is all that matters. You know, some days laundry completely defeats me. Sometimes I have to start a load of laundry so many times its embarrassing because the clothes didn’t get moved over into the dryer in time. This might or might not happen after Alexa kindly reminded me to move the laundry to the dryer. Sometimes one load just sits in the dryer until I realize I am missing something I know I washed. Then there are those days that I wash load after load and then clean clothes cover the couch, love seat and my bed until it is time for bed. Then the clothes on the bed get thrown in the nearest basket or on top of my dresser. I know…the horror. So seriously guys, I don’t always have it all together.
I recently read a quote that made me have so much peace on these days.
When in doubt, choose the kids. There will be plenty of time later to choose work.
I definitely would say that more often than not, I “do it all”. The following are some things that help me when I actually “do it all” or almost “do it all”.
1. Lists. I have tons of lists. I have To do lists, grocery lists, meal plan lists. I have recently converted an empty kitchen wall into a command center and it is seriously a game changer. I break up my to do lists for “today”, “this week” and “this month.” I try not to make them too long or unattainable. I usually try to stick with five or six things. If you are a stay at home mom you understand that this TRULY is a lot of things. Try not to have any big things all in one day. If you are leaving the house at all I would have even less things on the list. I will usually pick one big thing, some small things and an “it would be awesome to get this done” thing.
2. Reminders. I have so many reminders written on my board and my cell phone. I set Alexa and phone alarms. I even have husband reminders sometimes.
3. Multitasking. I try to multitask as much as I can. Most mornings you can find me stuffing and snapping diapers in the play room while singing nursery rhymes or dancing to some music with the girls.
4. Meal Planning and Prepping. This takes so much time in and of itself. I really do get it. I also DO have a passion for cooking, food and health food and not everyone else shares my passion. This is a lot of work, but I really do find pride and joy in providing for my family this way. If I don’t plan and prep, we are eating chicken Thai fried rice and Pizza Hut pizza and wings for dinner and my husband will probably have Chick-Fil-A for breakfast.
5. Have a schedule, but be flexible. I’m not talking about yoga flexible here. Try not to stress out when things don’t go as planned (preaching to myself here.)
I think all moms are “super moms” in our own special ways. I also firmly believe that no one has it “all together” all the time or “does it all” all the time. Thank you so much for joining me on my journey of this crazy thing called life. Please remember to subscribe if you want to see more posts like this.