Twins are fascinating! Are they from his side? Are they from her side? Are they from a test tube? Are they identical? Oh hey! They are dressed from head to toe in frills, lace and bows. Obviously that is a boy and a girl.
But seriously. Where did my babies come from? Well when my husband and I fell in love and got married and the stork never came to our home. We never would have imagined waiting four years to hold our very own baby (or two) in our arms.
What’s wrong with him? What’s wrong with her? Clearly God doesn’t think you are meant to be parents! Sometimes it just “isn’t meant to be”.
NO WAY! You in no way shape or form deserve that kind of negativity in your life. We were worth it and deserved our little miracles. If this is your story, I want you to know that you are worth it too. Every single persons journey is different. Some may accidentally get pregnant and some may go on to adopt. Some may decide that being an amazing Aunt or not having children at all is their thing. And that is OKAY!
Our story is a long one. It is filled with hurt, fear, disappointment, hope, happiness and love. I could have never brought these precious and perfect little babies into this world without such an amazing, supportive and loving husband. If this is your story too than I hope that YOU can be the support your spouse needs and that THEY can be yours.
We didn’t know something was “wrong” until a year after we were married. We never prevented pregnancy and it never happened naturally. There was shock, denial, anger, depression and eventually acceptance (over the course of the years). We tried the timed cycles, the IUI’s, we both had two separate surgeries and eventually decided to move forward with IVF. One failed cycle and a frozen cycle later my little frosty babies gave me the first positive pregnancy test of my life.
These babies were made from love of their Mommy and Daddy. They were made from hormone pills and creams and patches. They were made from HUNDREDS of shots and blood draws. But most of all, they were made by a miracle of God. He used the knowledge of doctors and the convenience of modern technology to help us get these babies. In the end…life doesn’t come from a test tube. Life is a miracle.
So to answer the questions. My babies come from my egg and my husbands sperm. They come from his side of the family. They come from my side of the family. They are made up of both of our genetics. They look and have mannerisms of their parents and their grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. They aren’t any less human than your baby.
They were 100% worth the struggle. They are 100% worth the wait. If you are going through infertility of any kind. Be gentle with yourself and patient. Never blame yourself or your spouse. Everyone has a different struggle. Infertility is one of ours. I would love to be here for you if you need an ear to hear.